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Learning your lifetraps - I Choose Us

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It's been such a hard week emotionally!

For the past month, the married in the church have been going through the "I choose Us" course with the aim of dealing with the root of why we end up drifting away from our spouses and loosing our Love Connection.



This week in particular, we needed to dig deep and deal with our childhood and see how it connects with our behaviour today especially when we feel hurt or in pain. This was a gruelling exercise and yet profoundly uplifting. My wife and I got to cry about our weaknesses and childhood struggles and realise how we trigger each other's insecurities.

I we got realise that we need to write down how we would like to express our vulnerability to each other and pursue a constant prayer to be vulnerable to each other in the objective of weakening our lifetraps and moving towards a better marriage.

The biggest "light bulb moment" was the fact that one my lifetraps made me think that I don't have any lifetraps and such go through life thinking that my job is to please others and help them change while neglecting myself. How wrong have I been...

Through this course, It's been reaffirmed that there's nothing better than having a Christian marriage!
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