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Accepting change without regret


The last couple of months have been, for a lack of the better word, life-changing. I know that such words as "flash-of-light", "out-of-body experience", "life-changing" are often thrown in conversations to get attention on yourself. But I honestly believe my life trajectory and priorities have taken a "left-turn" in the last few months.

Above all, the last few months, I got to start filling the empty hole that I didn't want to admit was part of my life: knowing my roots. Visiting and staying at the places where my ancestors grew up, from both sides of my family, was an enriching experience. Getting to connect with cousins, uncles, aunts and elders have been both overwhelming and enthralling.

Being away from my family has reinforced my commitment to them to strive to always be the best version of me. I've learned for the first time, a family is not where you find people that look like you but rather people who just want to be close to you. I've also realised that once you stop looking behind in regret of what you might have lost, you start discovering the ounces of strength you need for the journey ahead.

Accept the change in your life. It's there for a reason. To help you discover the new life that is in store for you and your loved ones. Life was always meant to be fluid and non-repetitive. Society has created schemes and clever policies to give an illusion that life is better and safer if it's predictable and contained. But nothing is further from the truth. The world is an amazing canvas with incredible experiences awaiting for each individual that is prepared to step forward in discovery and without regret.
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  1. UnknownFebruary 7, 2020 at 8:00 PM

    So deep son!
    May God bless you always.
    With so much love
    Mum

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  2. BadenApril 11, 2021 at 9:55 PM

    Love this: "a family is not where you find people that look like you but rather people who just want to be close to you."

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