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“O Lord,” I prayed, “have mercy on me. Heal me, for I have sinned against you.”Psalm 41:4 Do you know the five languages of apology? What I’m going to share could greatly improve your ability to apologize effectively. Apology language #1 is expressing regret . Examples are “I’m sorry” or “I feel badly about what I did.” Apology language #2 is accepting responsibility . “I was wrong” or “It was my fault.” Apology language #3 is making restitution . “What can I do to make it right?” Apology language #4 is genuinely repenting . “I don’t want to continue hurting you. I know that it is wrong, and I don’t want it to happen again.” Apology language #5 is requesting forgiveness . “Will you please forgive me?” or “I value our relationship, and I hope you will forgive me.” Out of these five, your spouse likely has a primary apology language. One of these is more important to him or her than the other four. To give a successful apology, you must learn to speak the apology language of your spous...

A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare. -  Proverbs 15:1 Do you know how to affirm your spouse even when you disagree? It's a big step in learning how to have meaningful conversations. Take this example: A wife has shared that she is hurt by something her husband has done, and he responds, "I appreciate your sharing your ideas and feelings with me. Now I can understand why you could feel so hurt. If I were in your shoes, I'm sure I would feel the same way. I want you to know that I love you very much, and it hurts me to see you upset. I appreciate your being open with me." This husband has learned the art of affirming his wife even though he may not agree with her perception. Of course, he has a perspective and will eventually share it, but first, he wants his wife to know that he understands what she is saying and can identify with her pain. He is not condemning her interpretation, nor is he telling her that she should not feel up...

Example of the filth in Yeoville (Google image) On Sunday morning (well this was decided on the Saturday night), I made the trip to our cult favourite "magwinya" (fat cakes) outlet in Yeoville and just the thought of going back there after a long time of absence, excited me. But to be fair I was excited and scared at the same time . The current state of affairs is such places like Yeoville, Hillbrow and the likes have been in the news for all sorts of reasons, has caused me to keep my "Rambo" badge on. Needless to say, arriving there and getting those fresh bundles of joy into my hands then getting more and MORE surprised that inflation has not caused the price to increase (R2 for a big one), added to my satisfaction in making the trip. As I was driving away, I couldn't help but feel saddened that as much as my situation from a broke student with no clear future had improved, it felt that the place had only regressed or even worse, stayed the same. ...

Song of Solomon 1:15 NIV How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves. #memoriestocherish #life2full #marriage via Instagram http://ift.tt/2trzXYw

It is arguable that these days the role of the leader in many organizations is as much as anything about creating change and communicating its character and ramifications to those likely to be affected by it. The evidence is abundant. Look, for instance, at the much-discussed departure of David Moyes from Manchester United Football Club. As has been set out elsewhere , the communication issues were almost as important as the performance problems. On the other hand, much of the success at the UK retailer J Sainsbury enjoyed by soon-to-depart CEO Justin King has been attributed to his ability not just to steer through change but to communicate what he was doing – both inside and outside the business. Of course, there will be those that believe that natural leaders and communicators have been around for as long as there have been organizations for them to lead and people with which to communicate. But it is difficult to escape the notion that “the internet of things” appears to have...