It’s Not You, It’s God Nine Lessons for Breakups Eneas Article by Marshall Segal Staff writer, desiringGod.org Some of a single person’s darkest days fall after a breakup. You risked your heart. You shared your life. You bought the gifts, made the memories, and dreamed your dreams together — and it fell apart. Now, you’re back at square one in the quest for marriage, and it feels lonelier than square one, and further from the altar, because of all you’ve spent and lost. No one begins dating someone hoping to break it off someday. The wiring in most of us has us longing for the wedding day. We’re looking, sometimes it feels frantically, for love, for affection and security and companionship and commitment and intimacy and help. After all, God seems to want most of us to be married ( Genesis 2:18 ; Proverbs 18:22 ; 1 Corinthians 7:2 , 9 ). But that sure hasn’t made getting married easy. The Pain of Intimacy Without Matrimony The reality is that good, Chr...