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Single Man and Woman

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Since many sex addicts are single, we felt this was an important page to include in our site. I am writing this page for the person who has placed faith in Jesus Christ and desires to live for God.  age.
It's hard to wait.  The Bible says, “The Lord is good to those who wait for Him, to the soul who seeks Him” (Lamentations 3:25 NKJV).   Sometimes it is difficult to wait on God for the things that we want or need.  When I was a young teen, I remember how the hormones raged.  Sexual thoughts were often on my mind.  The idea of waiting till I was twenty-something to be married and enjoy sex did not sit well with me.  In my pride and impatience, I turned to masturbation, pornography and girlfriends to satisfy my burning desires. 
Waiting on God is perhaps most difficult when we’re hoping and praying that the right person will come across our path for marriage.  Whether you're young and fighting hormones, or older and fighting depression, trusting that God will meet your needs for companionship and affection is a challenge.  Our faith in God can weaken when we face questions like,  “Will I ever be able to enjoy sex in marriage?,” or “Will I be single all my life?,” or “Why do the married people get to enjoy the gift of sex and I have to do without?,” Or “Has God forgotten about me?”  
Let me encourage you that God has good plans for you. Jeremiah 29:11 says “For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord , "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (NIV).  It takes a step of faith to believe that God has GOOD plans for us, especially if we’re getting older and things don’t seem to be happening.  
Think about Abraham, who was about 85 when God told him he would have a son.  15 years later, Sarah gave birth to Isaac.  I'll bet that those 15 years were long and quiet, making it very difficult for Abraham to continue believing what God had told him.  Waiting for marriage can be a similar challenge of faith.  The Bible tells you that God has good plans for you…that he will crown you with “lovingkindness and tendermercies” (Psalm 103:4), yet it's hard to believe that when hope for a spouse seems to be fading.  Remember that God is the God of the impossible (Matthew 19:26).  Even when it looks like things aren’t going to happen, he can work a miracle for you.   
Suggestions to help you stay pure as a single:
Don't look at porn and/or masturbate:  We make our situation as a single incredibly more difficult by doing things that set our mind and eyes on lust.  Pornography and masturbation are often touted as harmless sexual release for singles.   Far from harmless, porn pierces our minds with evil thoughts, while masturbation reinforces the addictive thought patterns. 
Ask God for sexual provision.  If you desire to marry, I encourage you to ask God for a wonderful spouse and trust that he will bring him or her to you in his time.  When God created Adam, he recognized Adam’s need for a wife.  He said, "It is not good for the man to be alone."  God decided to tailor-make Eve for him, and brought her to him. Adam was elated, as Eve was everything he had hoped for (and more).  
Seek God: After you've asked God for a spouse, use the time between now and then to seek God and work on your relationship with him.  God tells us, "But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" (Matthew 6:33 NIV).  A great marriage can certainly be part of the things that God will give you, if you seek His kingdom first.  Whenever you are tempted to get anxious about not having a spouse yet, call to mind Philippians 4:6-7 and recite it to yourself and receive God’s peace.  I find this is very effective in my own walk for the things I am believing God for. 
Don't look around at other people and their situations.  It is so easy to look around and wonder why God blessed other people and not you.  Keep in mind that you are specially designed and unique. God has a special purpose and plan for your life that is unlike anyone else’s.  Their situations and purposes in life are different from yours.   
Ask Jesus for help in resisting temptations.  Remember that you have Jesus with you at all times.  His Spirit – the Holy Spirit – lives with you and in you as a Christian.  Jesus is well acquainted with the challenges of living single.  He lived as a single man for more than 30 years.  The Bible tells us he faced every temptation imaginable (sexual included) and is therefore able to sympathize with us in every temptation we face.  He is able to aid us in resisting temptations (Hebrews 2:17-18; Hebrews 4:15).  When you pray to him for help in resisting temptations, feel free to tell him your frustrations – he understands and will help you.
Fight the lies with the truth:  The devil aims to weaken our faith and lure us into sin.  Every argument he presents is based on lies.  The truth breaks the power of the devil's lies.  When we know the truth, we are set free from the bondage of lies (John 8:31-32)  
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